sunday afternoons

He pretended he didn’t see her cry and she pretended she was ok.

And their kids grew up calling that love

BP

thank goodness for the pollen

because it's a lot easier 

to say it's allergies.

BP

wednesdays and tuesdays and all the other days

Today was Wednesday and I didn’t even realize till ten minutes ago

I think my brain was trying to help me forget

Because if it was Wednesday then in four hours it won’t be anymore and then the day he was supposed to come would have come and gone and I would feel sad and down which I can’t afford right now

because yesterday it was Tuesday and

I cried to my parents for the first time since that boy asked my best friend to the prom a year ago (and I can’t believe that was a year ago) and yesterday was Tuesday

Yesterday was Tuesday and I finally caught my parents up on the good and the bad and

And

And

And I would’ve loved to talk to you about that but Tuesdays were busy being Tuesdays and Wednesday was being impatient like it always is and I just didn’t feel like you cared

And on Tuesdays I kept checking to see if you'd written about me or her or anyone
To see if maybe you cared, but you were just afraid to show it
To see if I wasn't so wrong about Wednesdays, shouldn't feel so embarrassed for caring so much

And about a month ago I wrote a post called Tuesday and saved it on my iPhone note pad and sent it to a friend because only two people really read my blog anymore and

When you want to write about one of those two people that still actually read your blog it’s not super convenient to write on your blog

So you write and write and write on an iPhone note pad and send it to your friend

Just to ensure someone out there can see inside your head

So someone knows what you’re feeling, how you’re pinning it all together

But you see my phone is running out of room for Tuesdays and Wednesdays

Running out of the 30-day/week/month free trial session that it signed up for,

To the Getting-my-hopes-up-for-you Magazine

Because the last time I wrote about Tuesdays they had hope for Wednesdays and lots of what ifs hung in the air kind of like mistletoe during Christmastime

But this time the tomorrow in the picture

Isn’t a Wednesday

and I never was that good at writing about Thursdays

BP

the power of a broken heart

This one is for the boy with the leather belt

For the fact that he thought it would feel better

Around his neck than around his waist

For the fact that he told a girl about the demons in his head

And she asked for space

Because hearing those things was hard for her

And it’s not her fault because she didn’t deserve to hear it

Didn’t deserve to be put in a position where someone was blaming her for the darkness in their heart

Didn’t deserve to be reminded that life isn’t anything like 90% of 80s sitcoms made us think it would be

But there she was

And there he was

People telling them it wasn’t that big of a deal

They’re overreacting

Move on

She should just stop being his friend “it isn’t healthy”

And he should just get over himself  and“focus on the positives”

But what no one could seem to understand is the power of a broken heart

The way it can change your life and steals the light from your eyes

The way it hurts

Because if you were walking down the street

And someone started choking you

I can guarantee you anything

If you turned to see who it was

And realized

It was someone you loved

Someone you would’ve given your life to

Someone you trusted,

taking the very life out of your lungs,

You would die of a broken heart

Before you ever had the chance to realize

You were becoming

Short of breath

BP

ok

Because the thing about being human is,

If you’re sad but you don’t let yourself cry 

(because you're strong)

If you’re empty and you don’t let yourself feel 

(because you're busy)

And you keep telling everyone everything is good and ok and going well

And smiling

And living

And holding on

And hanging in there

The sad decides to make itself at home.

Decides to look around a little, maybe stay for a while

And without anyone ever knowing 

You realize you’re focusing a whole lot on swimming and breathing

You realize that uncried tears aren’t as forgiving as you thought

You realize your heart is drowning

And you’re not quite sure

what to do. 


And that's ok. 
Because it's ok 
To not be ok. 

BP

another one about the moon

When I was eight years old I reached so high

I grabbed a handful of the moon and decided to sew it into my heart

But wait. For a minute

Let’s talk about how the moon has phases and

Let’s talk about empty tired gazes

Because I didn’t know about those things at eight

Because full hands aren’t that different from full moons

And I can’t seem to ever remember what gibbous even means

But wait. For a second

Let’s talk about 4 am phone calls with exes

and the roommates who have to listen to them

(me)

About how they’ve talked about the same things for… since forever

And how both their hearts are at half and just need to orbit to new

Or full

Or anything besides half because halves aren’t whole and you’d think that’d be common knowledge

But every night at 4 am they seem to forget.

Anyways,

Back to moon-fulls and stitching hearts

Sometimes I want to blame that eight-year-old me for putting something so unstable

So changing

So inconsistent in my heart,

but I thought it was pretty and my mom had just taught me how to sew

Anyways,

A couple days went by and I turned 18

And the moon either disappeared

Or was staying in phase gibbous because I couldn’t understand it

or

remember it or

find it or feel it enough to even unstitch it

And I just put off writing this for a couple hours to register for classes and I can’t get over how ironic it was because

I ended up signing up for a class called Outer Space and I can almost guarantee they’re going to talk about the moon

And gibbous and phases

So maybe I should sit front row and take good notes and act interested and smile and dress nice

And maybe I’ll get a good grade in the class and be able to map out my heart a little better

The sun doesn’t have phases though

(as I’m sure I’ll learn in my class)

At least not on earth

So maybe me myself and eight-year-old I should’ve sewn in handfuls of the sun

But I didn’t

Anyways,

I still fall in love with the moon

I’ve written about it three times on this blog alone and doodled it on every page of my journal

And really, I think if there were a rocket in my back yard made of cardboard boxes and tin foil

I would be convinced it could get me to the moon

Because I would want it to

Because craters and mountains ranges and reflected light seem like the types of things that would make good stories and better friends and would add up for some good pictures

Because I haven’t felt at full for the last couple weeks and I’m starting to worry

Because I’ve had to reinvent my scale of self-worth thirteen times in the last couple months and I’m starting to worry

Because I want to show her how I know I can make her feel full because I can tell she’s starting to worry

Anyways,

I still think the moon is beautiful, even when it’s new

Even when it’s half

Even when it’s gibbous

And I think eight-year-old me knew that even when the moon disappeared,

It was still there, just waiting to take our breath away the next week

Maybe she knew there was something quite amazing about being able to say you’ve felt empty and half and yet,

To always know you’d make your way back to full. 

BP